Should You Let Go of Those Relationships (you know the ones)? My Opinion

Should You Let Go of Those Relationships (you know the ones)? My Opinion

Welcome to The Determined Mom Show. I am your host, Amanda Tento. Today. I want to talk to you about something that has been coming up recurrently in my life and I am sure it has come up in some way, shape, or form in your life as well.

People need to let go of those relationships that no longer serve each other and they’re not beneficial to either party. They can be detrimental to both sides if you continue these relationships.

It just got me thinking about how we as moms and as business owners probably have had a lot of that come up, interpersonal relationships in our friendships and our families, in every aspect of our life, there are just so many things that have divided us in our relationships.

So how do you know if it’s time to just say, enough is enough and that it can’t continue? That barometer for me to decide is whether or not I feel like someone’s heart and someone’s values align with my heart and my values. So an example of this is that you may disagree and that’s completely fine. You may be on the other side of the fence, you may be on this side of the fence, whatever side of the fence you’re on, it’s completely fine.

You should care about people and care about humanity and you should be teaching your children to care about people and humanity as well. For example, Black Lives Matter versus All Lives Matter. It is an issue of humanity and being a kind human, wanting the best for other humans and you should want the best for every single person. 

I’m choosing which relationships to keep and which ones to let go and one of my relationships recently ended very painfully, a friendship of 16 years. It ended over the vaccines and masking and honestly, I’m just for us in our family, we have five people in our household and four of them are black.

The statistic shows that African-Americans are five times more likely to be hospitalized than Caucasians. So with that said, it is very important for us as a family to protect ourselves and ensure that we’re only associating with vaccinated people and/or wearing masks.

We are fully vaccinated and we still wear masks everywhere. The point of this is I care about the people in public or at the grocery stores. If I have COVID and I don’t know it, I could be infecting every single person I walk past in that aisle with COVID and I’m not willing to do that. 

I mean, putting on a mask is such a simple sacrifice. I wouldn’t even call it a sacrifice. It’s just like putting on your socks or your underwear and it’s just such a simple act of respect for your community and others in this world.

So I have a very difficult time understanding but want to continue those relationships with those people that don’t feel the same way because it is a matter of the heart. If you love thy neighbor but don’t care if they are of COVID, that’s an issue.

That’s not an issue that I’m willing to sacrifice or compromise on because it is an issue of what is in your heart and you’re putting yourself and your importance in front of other people and I just can’t get along with that. So if you’re listening and you’re totally disagreeing with me and you are on the other side of that fence again, that’s okay, you have your opinion. 

If you’re in a relationship with someone that you’re having this conflict with, then if you don’t feel that person’s values align with your values anymore, go ahead and let it go.

It’s not going to be beneficial for you to continue in this relationship and continue having these stressors that really shouldn’t be there but continue to be there regardless of what happened. 

I think it’s really important to take an inventory of the things that are important to you as a family or important to you personally and make sure that your friends and family are aligning with those things. It can be very stressful to spend time with people and it’s just really difficult to look at people and know that this person feels this way about something.

It’s really important to draw your line in the sand and say I’m not willing to go past this because this is extremely important to me. I would feel morally wrong and I wouldn’t feel good about myself. I hope you have a wonderful week and I hope this helped you in some way. I’ll talk to you.