How to Reclaim Your Desires and Become Fully Alive In All Areas of Your Life with Tara Galeano

How to Reclaim Your Desires and Become Fully Alive In All Areas of Your Life with Tara Galeano

Welcome to episode 140 of The Determined Mom Show. I am your host, Amanda Tento. Today we have Tara Galeano and she is a Sexual Empowerment Coach. She’s going to be helping us today to understand how to reclaim our desires and become fully alive in all areas of our life.

So welcome Tara and thanks for sharing this exciting topic with us because interestingly enough, we have never had this topic on before. I believe it’s something that we as women need to do.

We need to be in touch with ourselves, in touch with our desires and everything to be happy and figure out what we want out of life. So tell us a little bit about yourself and what you do.

I was trained as a Clinician, so I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Certified Sex Therapist and ran a private practice in Boulder, Colorado for a couple of decades, and then I wanted to pivot my work and reinvent myself and begin to work with all women and show up more in my work.

So I had many life changes that kind of catapulted me on this different course, meaning different from the way I was trained as a psychotherapist.  It’s a helpful process but it’s limited in terms of expression of how I want to show up for myself. 

So changing to a Sexual Empowerment Coach allows me to share more of my story to get into the meat of why it is that I do the work that I do. So that’s why I do what I do and that’s how I became a sexual empowerment coach.”

I love it and I think every woman that comes on this show has an experience of some sort that affects them personally and then it just becomes this catalyst for helping other women to understand that same thing and I love it.

So I’ve come across so many women that want to talk about how they want to be in a relationship or they’re in a relationship and they’re not connecting to their partner sexually, or that it’s kind of been dormant because they are a mom and they are an entrepreneur, they’re working, they’re doing so many other things and that sex has kind of been put aside. So Tara, tell us a bit more about women’s perspectives that you have come across in your work.

I know women want to talk about this and for me, I feel like it’s so important to talk about this topic of sex and the kind of advanced work that I do. Cause I feel like most of the time the women that I meet and this was certainly true for me, want the ability to claim their desire.  

We as women need to begin to search for where desire lives in the body and how we express that desire and how we identify and articulate that desire to ourselves and others. 

Because when we can fully express it, then we can begin to live it and it’s not always about sexual desire. It’s about the things that we want to create in this world and live what it is that we were creating.

I show women how to tap into those desires. When I work with women and as I bring them into themselves, what I find is that oftentimes we’re externally referencing and we want to reach out and get it right and we want to be able to understand what other people need. So this way, when we conform, we’re constantly referencing others and I find that we as women are raised in that way.

Guided Visualization

I would love to lead you through one of the guided visualizations that I do with women. So if you’re comfortable, I invite you to close your eyes and place your feet flat on your floor, bringing your hands to your lap. 

I like to place my left hand on my heart and my right hand down on my lower belly, just two or three inches below my belly button, and as you’re relaxing and closing my eyes, bringing your attention inward into your body and taking a couple of deeper breaths and your normal breath and feeling the inhalation come into your body of the exhalation, leaving your body and inhaling again and exhaling.

One more time at your own pace with the inhalation and exhalation and again, bringing your attention to your body and just bringing your awareness to your pelvic bowl. 

Bring your hand around to the bony parts of your hip and then back to your sacrum, just feeling around your pelvic bowl and just allowing your imagination to come into that area as well and from the pubis or the pubic mound, just imagining your attention to come into your pelvic bowl.

Maybe you’re more familiar with this space having given birth, being a mom, having been pregnant, or if you haven’t had those experiences and just felt the sense of where it is that you imagine your uterus energy and just slowly walking and noticing the sensations that you experienced there and there’s no good and no bad, they’re just sensations.

As the sensations emerge, maybe there’s tension, maybe this vastness, there’s constriction, maybe there’s release and just noticing the curiosity, what lives there in your pelvic bowl and as you’ve walked the course of your pelvic ball, thanking your body for all that it does for you and thanking your pelvic bowl for any messages that you received, because it’s all information.

Then when you’re ready, come back to this space and then open your eyes in your own time. What did you notice, Amanda?

I feel this kind of energy in my uterus, the lower shakra. So I have this kind of sensation. I don’t know how to explain it, but it’s like, I can just feel it, I didn’t know, that’s where I store all of my energy. So it feels like it’s a powerful place for you to tap into when you want to create.

“Yes, very much so. So women need to do meditation practices like these and it will help to provide them with a healthy mind and body.”

So thank you so much, Tara. I am very honored that you were able to come and share with us today. Everything that you’ve shared with us and your wisdom and your expertise and I appreciate you being on the show. To our readers don’t forget to join our Facebook group, Mastering Google My Business to increase your revenue. See you there.